Actually, it isn’t customary and considered rude to ask for a specific type of gift. But with changing times, and the present and sometimes unforeseen wedding debt, the best gift anyone can give you is monetary. But how do you ask for money as a wedding gift without sounding presumptuous? Here are three ideas we’ve come up with to avoid the wedding gift awkwardness.
Tell your guest how you will spend the money
A number of brides are jumping on this new hidden gem. Honeyfund is a great and easy way to earn money for your honeymoon. There are loads of things that you might be thinking of doing for your honeymoon. You might be dreaming of going on a safari honeymoon or even somewhere like Hawaii or Bora Bora, you might decide to go somewhere closer to home though. Either way registering for a Honeyfund is the way to go. Honeyfund is the “world’s most popular gift registry for honeymoons, down payments, charities and more.” What’s unique about this website is that it is not solely dedicated to raising money for a honeymoon. If you are trying to raise money for a down payment on a new home, or are one of those couples who’d rather give back to the community, you can also spread the love by raising money for a charity of your choice. Registering for a Honeyfund, eliminates that awkward gift giving process and allows you to receive exactly what you want- to help lives and/or to build memories that will last a lifetime.
If registering for a honeyfund isn’t for you. You may include a clever saying in your wedding invitation or wedding website that infoms guests what you’d be spending the wedding money on. In Deb and Mike’s wedding website they had a gift request and worded it a lovely poem:
“Now that we’re set to be Mr. and Mrs.,
Our journey begins with just a few wishes,
We have two toasters, two microwaves, and plenty of pans,
Now getting a house is next in our plans,
Your presence at our wedding is present enough,
But houses aren’t bought with good looks and good luck,
A few pennies and dollars will help us indeed,
Please fill our wishing well with your good deeds.”
Deb and Mike make is clear that they already have the items guests usually give as wedding presents, but do need a home to call their own and would need help in making that goal a reality.
Don’t mention it
Another way to avoid the awkwardness would be not putting anything related to gift giving on the invitation. On the invitation, couples usually include an insert or special text noting where they are registered. Not including registries, would tell your guests: 1. You are not registered anywhere (of course) and 2. they may understand a monetary gift is preferred.
“I heard it through the grapevine”
Spread the word and let the power of communication take over. Let your parents, siblings and close family know that you’d prefer a monetary gift and if anyone asks, let them know they have your permission to communicate that out.
With any gift that you receive, receive the gift gracefully. Your wedding guest put a lot of thought in picking the perfect gift for your wedding in hopes that you would see the same value in it as they did. After all, it’s the thought that counts.