How To Pick Your Bridesmaids

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It’s time to round them up! They’ll help you stuff envelopes, plan your bachelorette party, glue things together and wear any dress you choose. During this time, they will be your army, but first you’d want to decide who you want to be in your wedding camp. The amount of bridesmaids is a decision only you can make. In 27 Dresses, Jane Nichols (Katherine Heigl) had 27. That might now be a number you are not comfortable with, but this movie just shows you that there isn’t a rule to how many bridesmaids you can have. So how do you pick your bridesmaids? Here are a list of things to keep in mind when looking for bridesmaids.

  1. The size of your wedding- Choose a number of bridesmaids that would complement your wedding size. If you have a small intimate wedding of maybe 50 and under, a high number of bridesmaids is probably not a good idea to have in your wedding party.
  2. It’s the Grooms wedding too- Does the groom have sisters or cousins, he wants to have in the bridal party also? How many people did he have in mind? If you don’t know, you may want to ask.
  3. Bridesmaid duties- The Maid of Honor and bridesmaids are the brides right hand woman. They are expected to be there when the bride needs help and advice on anything. To answer questions, contact vendors and be there for emotional support when needed. It’s a huge role to play with. In addition, typically, they’re expected to pay for their expenses such as airfare for destination weddings, hair, make up, shoes and their wedding dress.
  4. What are you looking for?– Only you know exactly how you are. Take a step back and evaluate what type of bride you are. Do you like to do things and make decisions with only you and your partner or do you need your girls to help you with that decision? Do feel that bridesmaids are required to fulfill ALL bridesmaid duties from accompanying you when you look at wedding dresses to attending your bachelorette party? If one of your attendee’s aren’t able to make it, would you be ok with that?
  5. Where will you be in 20 years- A wedding lasts a day, a marriage lasts a lifetime, but will your friendship with the bridesmaids be the same in 20 years? You’ll want to look back at your wedding pictures 20 years down the line and have the same concrete friendships with the same people as you did when you were at the altar.
  6. They like him too- At this time, you’d want to be surrounded with positive supportive people. Pick bridesmaids that approve of him and your wedding.
  7. They don’t have to be matching- Traditionally, bridesmaids were unmarried young women, but in current times, both the bride and the groom can pick bridesmaids and groomsmen.

If you’re still confused, Just for fun, we’ve found a How to Pick your BRidesmaids Quiz on www. by Amanda MacMillan. You can rate your candidates using this short quiz. When you’re done with the quiz, you can determine which candidate falls in what score range, then Tada, that’s your answer.

You are siblings: +10 points

She and your fiancé are siblings: +4 points.
As a general rule, you should try to include his sister unless he asks you not to.

You’ve been BFFs forever: +1 point for every five years you’ve been close.

You’re BFFs now: +2 points. Add five if she was the first person you called after saying yes.

She was a bridezilla at her own wedding: -3 points

Being around her just makes you happy, plain and simple: +5 points

You’d trust her opinion in any dressing room: +1 point

You were a bridesmaid at her wedding: +2 points. Unless the statute of limitations—five years—is up. Then there’s no obligation.

And the winners are…

1-6 points: Someone has to do the readings, right?

7-14 points: Makes the cut!

15+ points: By a landslide. Maid of honor